When I found the book: “The Sober Diaries” by Clare Pooley, I was intrigued.

Here was someone who had not only battled the beast of alcohol addiction but had also come out victorious on the other side. Desperate for a change and inspired by Pooley’s candid recount of her journey, I decided to give her methods a try.

Here are the main things that helped me:

The Power of Journaling: One of the first concepts that struck me from the book was the transformative power of journaling. She didn’t just quit drinking; she documented every step, struggle, and success along the way. Inspired, I began my own sober diary. Writing became my therapy, my accountability partner, and a tangible record of my progress. On days filled with doubt, I’d look back at my entries and see how far I’d come. The act of putting pen to paper made my commitment real and my goals achievable.

Embracing the Sober Firsts: The author talks about facing “sober firsts” – those events we can’t imagine attending without a drink in hand. My first sober wedding loomed large in my diary. Initially, the thought filled me with anxiety. How could I possibly enjoy it without alcohol? But remembering Pooley’s approach, I prepared mentally, armed myself with non-alcoholic alternatives, and focused on the joy of the occasion itself. Not only did I survive the wedding sober, but I also truly enjoyed it, remembered every moment, and woke up the next day hangover-free. Each sober first became a milestone, celebrated with pride in my diary.

Finding Joy in Sobriety: Perhaps the most profound lesson from The Sober Diaries was learning to find joy in sobriety. Pooley’s narrative shattered my belief that alcohol was the key to happiness. Encouraged, I began to seek out and savor the pleasures of a sober life. Morning runs replaced morning regrets. Evenings were spent exploring new hobbies instead of nursing a bottle. Sobriety wasn’t just about removing alcohol; it was about rediscovering life’s simple joys.

To maintain my sobriety, I’ve leaned heavily into the practices Pooley espoused. My diary remains my steadfast companion, a daily ritual where I reflect, plan, and celebrate.

I’ve also built a supportive community around me, individuals who understand and champion my sober journey. Exercise, a rediscovered love for cooking, and meditation have become pillars of my new lifestyle, keeping me grounded and focused.

For anyone thinking about quitting, I recommend starting your own sober diary. You might just find that the story you write is the most empowering one yet.